Tiden før døden

“Vi skal alle dø”, er en nærmest latterlig ting at sige, da alle jo ved det. Alligevel optræder de fleste af os, som om vi ikke ved det! Sidsel Hoe fra Zetland har skrevet/indlæst en fremragende artikel om døden i det moderne samfund. Som hun skriver: Der er tilføjet et nyt kapitel til menneskelivet: De år, vi bruger på at dø.

Jeg tænker selv meget over det her – på nær få undtagelser er vi meget sejlivede i min familie, så jeg har snart set mange dø en langsom og ofte pinefuld og ydmygende død – over mange år nogle gange. Undervejs har de mistet alt det, der gør livet værd at leve. Syn, hørelse, smagssans – og ikke mindst hjernekapacitet. Og nogle har oven i købet haft smerter tillige. 

Jeg vil gøre næsten hvad som helst for ikke at leve et ydmygende ikke-liv i mine sidste år.

Corona

Sadiq Khan siger lige noget

Londons borgmester om hvordan etniske minoriteter bliver ramt forholdsmæssigt hårdere af Coronavirus end hvide. Og om hvorfor.

Londons busser

Det bliver nu (midlertidigt) gratis at køre med bus i London, efter at 20 buschauffører er døde af Covid19. Det hænger sådan sammen, at passagererne så kan gå ind ad bussens midterdør og derved undgå at komme i for tæt kontakt med chaufførerne. Det er World Economic Forum, der fortæller.

En verden post-corona

Et interessant og nuanceret syn på, hvad der for altid vil være ændret efter Corona. Men også på midlertidige forandringer, der først vil indsnævre vores råderum, dernæst udvide det igen.

Samfund/miljø/politik

Madame Secretary

Langt interview med Madeleine Albright, hvor hun kommenterer på, hvad der måske kan komme til at ske efter Corona-krisen. Hun forfalder ikke til rasende kritik af Trump. Hun er mere subtil end som så.

Viden

To forskere fra RUC (Institut for natur og miljø) redegør på Videnskab.dk for, hvordan en model med effektiv karantæne og smitteopsporing vil gøre det muligt at åbne samfundet næsten helt op – også for de sårbare – uden at ramme max-antallet af alvorligt syge, som sundhedsvæsnet kan håndtere. En model de allerede bruger i fx Norge.

Teknologi

Kaninhullet

New York Times har startet en podcast om det kaninhul, der er Internettet, nærmere bestemt YouTube og den algoritme, der i løbet af fem klik kan bringe dig fra mainstream til konspirationsteorier. Podcastens hovedperson er en ung mand, der fortæller om sin tur ned i kaninhullet. Det er uhyggeligt og meget spændende. I øvrigt starter hans rejse med Gamergate. Hvis du trænger til at få den sag genopfrisket, så får du det med i købet ved lytningen. Den hedder meget sigende The Rabbithole og kan findes der, hvor du henter dine podcasts. Der findes nu et intro-afsnit og to hele afsnit.

Megavigtigt 😁

Hvordan du får din egen baggrund – eller bare én baggrund – i Microsoft Teams. Tak til Kim Elmose for den.

Om os

Modne single-kvinder vil gerne have en kæreste

Men de gider ikke flytte sammen med ham. Det er der flere gode grunde til, men den væsentligste er, at kvinder ikke gider træde tilbage i omsorgsfunktionen igen efter at have ydet den over for mand og børn og sidenhen måske også for gamle forældre. 

Medier

Det Danske Akademi

For folk med abonnement på Weekend-Avisen og Berlingske har det været en sand klikfest at følge med i debatten om Marianne Stidsen og de fire fra akademiet. Jeg har ikke abonnement, så jeg har kun læst artikler andre steder og overskrifter og referater. Hvad jeg dog har læst er et par af Stidsens tidligere indlæg om feminisme som “Mazisme” og retsforfølgelse af #metoo-aktivister efter terrorisme-paragraffen. Imens forskellige chefredaktører og andre svinger sig i ytringsfrihedslianerne, så tænker jeg, at der måske bare kommer et tidspunkt, hvor man må melde sig ud af en forening, fordi et trættekært medlem erobrer al taletiden for at ride egen kæphest, og resten bare sidder tilbage og piller ved deres telefoner? Hvis du vil læse om det, så googler du bare det fremhævede herover.

Kunst og kultur

Corona-ballet

Denne skønne video har jeg mødt mange gange i den mere kultiverede del af mit Facebook-feed i den forgangne uge. Jeg bliver glad af at se den – you know – balletdansere, disse æteriske og yndefulde skabninger, som rigtigt mennesker!

Det er en illusion

Set designeren fra Parasite fortæller, hvordan han skabte Park-familiens hus som en serie af kulisser efter nøje instrukser fra instruktøren.

En empati-lektion fra fortiden

Shakespeare kan lære os empati i en coronatid. Anne Sophie Refskou er Phd i Shakespeare-studier og fortæller om skuespillet King Lear, som han skrev, mens han var isoleret under et pest-udbrud.

Se eller gense Captain Fantastic

Captain Fantastic, der er en af mine all-time-favourites kan nu ses ganske gratis på Filmstriben. Fik du ikke set den i biffen, så har du her chancen for at opleve Viggo Mortensen i en af sine allerbedste roller, omgivet af en flok vidunderlige børn og unge.

30-års krigen

Jeg har læst Daniel Kehlmanns fantastiske roman Tyll om 30-års krigen. Her er tale om et prægtigt stykke tysk litteratur, der rækker langt ud over sit eget land. Godt oversat til dansk og i en udmærket lydbogsudgave.

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Friendless in a Foreign Country

I like to overdo it a bit in my headlines. Do forgive. But – when I first left Denmark and came over here I never thought it a problem to have left my friends behind. I mean, we could e-mail, phone, exchange comments on Facebook, Skype, etc., and I come home often. The truth is, we don’t do any of this much. For some reason some of my best friends are just not into Facebook, Twitter, IM’ing or frequent e-mailing. So the fact is that only with a couple of my friends can I claim to have an ongoing relationship. When I’m in Copenhagen there’s no problem, it’s as if we’d never been apart and all is rosy.

But I’ve realised that the day-to-day chat at the school gate, at a brief coffee, in a quick phone conversation about practicalities, at get-togethers and dinners mean a lot more than I’d thought. And that’s what I miss. Sometimes you meet with a friend and you launch right into deep, personal important stuff. Other times you spend the allocated time discussing recent political developments. And at other occasions it’s your children or “what a lovely new coat”. It’s when all these things come together that you can speak of a real friend.

a little bird...
a little bird...

I didn’t quite realise how much I’d missed this until I found The Twitterladies. The Twitterladies should be seen as something very elastic. I couldn’t tell you their names without missing some of them (we don’t all tweet around the clock about everything) and also, there are a few men there too.

Now, I can already see eyebrows raised, also among twitterers. So I can reveal right away that no, I don’t believe that I now have 20 new best friends of whom I’ve only met half. But what the Twitterladies have given me that I was missing is those four things I mentioned above:

Yes, you can discuss personal stuff and find comfort and wise words. When I recently experienced something very unpleasant in an unexpected setting, I tweeted about it. And sympathy and sound advice came streaming in.

And politics of course. I’ll be the first to admit that I mostly tweet with likeminded, but not always. Meaning that I’m following (and they are following me back) people with whom I do not agree politically. But when you find people who will discuss on an informed level and in a decent tone of voice, isn’t that just like having real friends?

Then the children – oh, The Twitterladies tweet a lot about their children. And I love it. Because it allows me to tweet about my two wonderful children as well without feeling embarrassed about it.

Finally, the “nice new coat”. Have you ever heard of twitpics? Well, they are the pictures we post to twitter of a pair of new boots, sunglasses, haircut, etc., and then receive lovely compliments. I also recall an episode with a Twitterlady who photographed herself in the changing room in two different skirts because she couldn’t make up her mind. The Twitterverse helped her with an almost unanimous verdict.

Oh, and then I haven’t mentioned food, literature and television. The foodies among us tweet ideas for dinners, cake recipes, cook’s tips, etc. The Literature Ladies tweet literary criticism (or links to same), suggestions for Next Book and comments on literary events. And television. Oh dear. There’s a fraction of the Twitterladies who are dedicated to watching Strictly Come Dancing and tweeting about it. I don’t watch it so see my twitterstream change into something completely unintelligible whenever the programme’s on air. But I also get good ideas for programmes to watch and programmes to avoid. Watching anything on TV simultaneously with other Twitterers enhances the experience. Seeing is believing!

You dont want to know why I took this picture
You don't want to know why I took this picture

I most certainly couldn’t do without my real friends, some of whom I’ve known a big chunk of my life. We share something that I don’t share with anyone on Twitter – our pasts. But It’s the honest truth that The Twitterladies have enhanced my life.

As mentioned above I’ve already met quite a few of them live. We had a fantastic “tweet-up” on Trafalgar Square when one of the Twitterladies was “on the plinth”. Explanation of that phenomenon here. If this has made you curious, here’s an intelligent and thoughtful blogpost about the Trafalgar Square event: La Vie en Gris. And I’ve met three Twitterladies, on separate occasions, for coffee. All lovely, all inspiring, all leading to a nice warm community feeling.

If you tweet, just check my stream, and the lovely Twitterladies will emerge. Some of them are so bright and brilliant that I’m constantly thrilled to “know” them.

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The Frost & the Rat

This morning it was the MOST unpleasant weather. It was freezing cold and a thick icy fog covered the land. Yukkk! Poor Dane had his beloved football cancelled (icy pitch) and then of course he was dressed all wrong for selling cakes at the farmer’s market.

Blueberry muffins, carrot/orange cake, Cornish Fairings.
Blueberry muffins, carrot/orange cake, Cornish Fairings.

We had plans to go up to London to visit British Museum to see some mummies (Dane has taken a keen interest in all things Egyptian lately), but it was so horrible outside that we just nipped down to Marks & Spencers for some emergency food and to the hobby store for some paraphernalia for making a RAT. Dane had seen this done on one of his favourite programmes on TV, SMART. Dane presents his creation in the below two videos.

[flickrvideo]http://www.flickr.com/photos/nenelabeet/3185122177/[/flickrvideo] [flickrvideo]http://www.flickr.com/photos/nenelabeet/3185950008/[/flickrvideo]

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Dutiful parents…

… as we are, we tried to do something meaningful with Dane over the holidays. Possibly the best bit was finally getting up in the London Eye, which we’ve been talking about and meaning to do ever since we came over here. It was David’s birthday, so we wanted to combine something enjoyable for him with something enjoyable for Dane. They have a pretty good queuing system for the London Eye – first you queue for less than 1/2 hour to get your tickets. Then it says on the tickets, when you have to report back to another queue. After that it’s only another 1/2 hour. For us it was perfect – there was just time for a nice lunch a bit further down the river. Here are a couple of pictures – luckily it was sunny, but with ominous clouds, which lend quite some drama to the pictures.

London skyline with some bad weather coming

While we were still waiting
While we were still waiting

Later on we wondered around London for a few hours. I wonder if I’m quite normal. The two shops in London, which I feel I soon know inside out are the Apple Store and Hamley’s. Shouldn’t it be Harrods and Selfridges? Or Waterstone’s?

But since inside photographs from those two shops would probably be rather dull, here’s a picture from an encounter Dane had with two nice, elderly gentlemen in New Bond Street.

Its Roosevelt and Churchill in case you were wondering...
It's Roosevelt and Churchill in case you were wondering...

More pictures, also from Halloween and bonfire night here.

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